8 Reasons You’re Still Dating the Wrong Person

8. They’re nice. So your boyfriend or girlfriend is really nice. You don’t hate them, but you don’t really like being with them all that much. Whatever reason you don’t want to be with someone is enough.  You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Unfortunately, sometimes you have to hurt nice people, but it’s better than living a lie.

7. The misconception relationships are always a certain way. Not all relationships involve the stripping of personal freedoms. Just because Toby’s girlfriend cuts him off after two drinks doesn’t mean all girlfriends will do the same. And don’t think for a second that because Polly’s boyfriend is a jealous asshole who won’t let her talk to other guys that all men are like that. The point is, whatever preconceived notions you have about relationships aren’t necessarily true, but having such notions will usually ensure they happen. It’s called a self-fulfilling prophecy.

There are people out there that will let you be you. Amazing, I know. There is only one stipulation to finding someone like that. You must grant them the same freedoms without question. Because, hey, nobody likes a hypocrite.

6. You can’t stand to be on your own. Learn how to be independent. Being dependent is a weakness that will hinder you in so many areas of life. If you can learn to be independent it will allow you to pick and choose the right person rather than latching on to every person who smiles at you.

5. Too much comfort. Finally! After years and years she doesn’t seem to mind when you let one rip in front of her. Heck, she even gives you a Dutch Oven now and then. Now, despite the fact that you hate each other you don’t want to give up your comfortable old shoe of a relationship. You can’t go back to the no fart zone and let all your hard work go to waste, you’ve been breaking each other in for years now. Bullshit, your life is boring, but comfortable and you’ve forgot there’s fun to be had. Wake up.

4. Picking up can be a hassle. The dating scene can be exhausting, but that doesn’t mean you should stay with Jerky MacJerkerson. Sure, it can be a pain in the ass to find a great companion, but be patient, have more faith in yourself, and realize there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Also, stop looking for that special someone in dance clubs or grubby bars. Those are one night stand places. Try school, work, house parties, or other social gatherings so you can meet people through conversation, and not through grinding your dink into their lower back.

3. The classic – “I’m looking for someone else, but in the meantime….” The longer you stick it out in a placeholder relationship, the more difficult it’s going to be to escape. Suddenly, it’s not just the girl you’re breaking up with, but it’s her family, the ride they give you to work, those sweet season tickets, and that after work BJ. If only you had ended this on the second date when the thought first crossed your mind. Sure, you’ll lose some perks, but no one said you wouldn’t have to make a few sacrifices.

Also, how terrible is it that you’re misleading this person while you search for someone better? Don’t stick with the clunky old car because it’s sitting in the driveway, try searching a couple parking lots for something that rides a little smoother and has better options. That’s a lame analogy, but you know what I mean.

2. Constant Action. People are hooked on the constant supply of sex. This is why so many couples break up, get back together, break up, get back together etc. They’re weening themselves off constant sex. They really need to develop some kind of patch for that. Cut your losses and stop using one another as a placeholder. Despite what your genitalia are preaching to you, trading your freedom for action isn’t worth it.

1. The #1 reason why you are still dating the person that makes your life hell is because it drives you crazy to imagine them having sex with someone else. No, your ex is not going to become a priest or a nun. Yes, they will bump uglies with someone else. This should not be the deciding factor in staying with someone. Grow up, move on, and let them do the same.  I can guarantee you this, when you find someone new and amazing, you’ll actually want your ex to meet someone new and you won’t give a rat’s ass who’s lying naked on top of them. Eureka.

If you think this is about you then you’re probably in a hopeless relationship. Hit the eject button.

  • I can’t help but feel like this post has a little something to do with me, LOL.

  • hadje

    sheesh CC—-you had me at #5.
    my philosophy: make a stink…duh….you really do stink.
    who needs it.

  • @Czech Boy – Did you read the bottom line – “If you think this is about you then you’re probably in a hopeless relationship. Hit the eject button.” <-- Yes, well I wrote this four or 5 years ago. So, thanks for proving my point. HIIIIIIIYA! @Hadje - Simple and to the point philosophy. You have my vote for next President.

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